There are challenges to living alone, and you must learn to face them
Here you are, a fresh graduate, and also just landed a job in a different city, under a huge company. It’s time for you to move out of your comfort zone (i.e., your parents’ house), and to finally feel the full impact of an independent life. You’re excited about what may come, and you’re also apprehensive at the adjustment period.
Truly, living alone can have its share of difficulties, especially on your first few months. All these years you’ve gotten used to other people picking up after you, cleaning up your messes, cooking your meals, fixing your clothes, and then all of a sudden, you find yourself having to do these things alone. How difficult can it be? Here’s a discussion of the difficulty that is often experienced by those who try living alone for the first time.
It’s All About Loneliness
More than missing other people doing your chores for you, you’re most likely missing people, period. There’s nothing more nostalgic than remembering and feeling the presence of your loved-ones as your security blanket, and there’s nothing sadder than realizing that they’re just not really there anymore. You know you can just call them up, but you know phone call just won’t cut it. Thus, with living alone, it becomes all too easy to slip back into a helpless kind of loneliness, which is probably why you hear of a lot of people who got depressed being alone.
Needless to say, this is something you would definitely want to avoid. The good thing is, being alone does not necessarily mean you’re bound to become lonely. There are a lot ways to keep yourself busy, and here are a few of them.
Buy a computer, in case you don’t already have one. The virtual world would be good for keeping you company. By going online, you can communicate with your loved ones. You can also distract yourself when you shop in online shops like Lazada and Zalora. (Bonus tip: get that Lazada voucher code for new members, you won’t regret it. You might also want to go buy the direct coupon, which is also a good option for cheaper shopping.) Enlarge your virtual world, and become a friendlier person.
Volunteer for a good cause. The community where your apartment is located is probably filled with groups that are committed to a lot of good things. The key is to choose which ones among the causes you see yourself committing to. Once you volunteer, stick to your commitment. Aside from making you feel good about yourself, it’ll also make you see that there’s a world that’s bigger than your private loneliness.
Make a daily call. Sure, the phone call is never the same as person-to-person engagement, but it may just be enough to get you through the first few weeks, which are always the most difficult. Talk to your dad or mom, or brother, or sister, or perhaps a friend who can empathize with you. Talk to someone who can help you deal with your feelings about loneliness. It will surely help.